Self-Pleasure 101: A Guide For Women To Enjoy A Solo Run And Achieve The Big 'O'

A woman masturbating or being capable enough to pleasure herself is an idea that is unsettling to society. It is frowned upon and considered such a sin that actor Swara Bhaskar’s masturbation scene in Veere Di Wedding received tremendous backlash on social media.

She was mercilessly trolled for an act that is perfectly natural. Self-pleasure is one of the most pertinent acts, especially for women who are encouraged to repress their sexual desires by society. Instead, women should be encouraged to explore their pleasure points, and satisfy their needs, in order to feel good about themselves.

It is not something to be ashamed of, but something to own with dignity. Therefore, we bring you a guide to be your own wing woman when it comes to achieving the big ‘O’.

Do Not Pressure Yourself To Get To An Orgasm

You must know that it takes time to orgasm, and it won’t be a pleasurable ride if you continuously put pressure on yourself. More than the climax, self-pleasure should be about exploring yourself, what you like and what touches get you going.

First and foremost, get comfortable. Lock your door, set the mood, and give yourself time to enjoy the journey towards reaching an orgasm. This is your ‘me’ time, and you can take as long as you need to reach climax.

Use A Tool

Sex tools are of big help when it comes to self-pleasure. Brands like MyMuse and Sangya Project are places where you can get toys that appeal to you the most.

You can also invest in as many toys as you want without judgement. Many toys mean you can switch from time to time and diversify the pleasure your body gets. When alone in your space, you must try to let go of any stigma, and just concentrate on your body.

Explore As Much As You Can

Finding the much-hyped G-spot and stimulating it to achieve climax is not the main goal of self-pleasure. The G-spot is also a myth, confirmed our gynaecologist, Dr Anjali Kumar. Self-pleasure is about exploring your curves, stimulating different parts of the body, and figuring out what stimulates the clitoris. The clit has got thousands of nerve endings that when stimulated the right way can help you reach a happy ending.

Consider Lubricant Your Best Friend

Even with masturbation, lubricants can be your biggest ally in overcoming vaginal dryness and helping with penetration by sex toys. It is safe for use both inside and outside the body to do away with any sort of discomfort and prevent redness or injuries because of friction.

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Do Not Forget To Mix Things Up

Much like intercourse, you should mix things up while masturbating. From reading an erotic story to self-pleasuring while watching porn, you must keep things exciting. The same formula may not give the same results every time in this case.

But it does not end there. You can change positions, and go back and forth on toys. It will help widen your scope of enjoyment and help you achieve the big ‘O’ in more than one fun way.

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You must remember that self-pleasuring is a learning curve that requires patience. You should be open to exploring because you never know what might help you achieve an earth-shattering orgasm.