Woman Says Husband Wants To Keep The Union But End Romance: Is That Possible? Expert Weighs In

A recent incident shared on a community post came to light when a woman revealed that her husband wanted to end the romance but keep the marriage. Scroll down to learn more about the incident. 
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In the past few years, social media has allowed people to speak openly about changing marital scripts and emotional connections. A recent story shared on a community post by a woman added a new dimension to marital relationships. She revealed that her husband wants to end the emotional connection with her while wanting to stay in the marriage. This incident created a new buzz on social media about evolving marital relationships. We spoke to Divya David, Mphil, Mental Health Coach to understand the situation and reason behind such behaviour.

Marriage Without Emotional Connection

A woman in a community post wrote that her husband recently told her that he no longer wants to have a romantic relationship with her but still wants to stay married. She took to the UK online forum Mumsnet to share the detailed story. She wrote that the couple have been together for 12 years and have been married for 6 years. In the past few days, her husband seemed off, which led to a deep conversation between the two and the revelation about the ending romantic connection. However, despite this, her husband wants to stay in the marriage as he loves their daughter and wants to carry on their life like before, which means sharing finances, and other responsibilities.

Why Do People Want To Stay In A Marriage Without Emotional Connection?

While trying to dig deeper into this, Divya said, there are several reasons why people might stay in a marriage even when the emotional or intimate connection has faded.

Fear Of Change Or The Unknown

The fear of change can prevent individuals from leaving an unfulfilling marriage. The uncertainty of being alone, facing financial instability, or adjusting to new life circumstances can be overwhelming. This fear of the unknown can trigger existential anxiety, leading individuals to rationalise staying in a relationship to avoid discomfort or emotional distress.

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Fear Of Loneliness

The fear of loneliness after years of companionship can be a powerful motivator for staying in an unfulfilling marriage. According to attachment theory, humans have a fundamental need for connection, and the prospect of isolation can evoke deep emotional distress. The fear of being alone often outweighs the discomfort of staying in a disconnected relationship.

Comfort Or Habit

Over time, marriages can become more about routine and comfort than emotional connection. Individuals may feel reluctant to change due to familiarity, or because the relationship no longer presents overt conflict. This inertia can make it harder to address the emotional void in the marriage.

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Hope For Improvement

Some individuals stay in the hope that things will improve. They believe that, with time or effort, the emotional or intimate connection may return, despite the current lack of fulfillment. This hope can be a powerful motivator, even when the relationship is stagnant.

Emotional Dependency

Emotional dependency can make leaving a relationship feel unbearable. The fear of rejection or abandonment can lead to staying in a marriage out of the belief that one is incapable of thriving independently.

Commitment To Family Or Children

Many individuals stay in marriages for the sake of their children, believing that a stable, two-parent household is essential for their well-being. Children thrive in secure environments, and parents may prioritize family preservation over their own emotional needs, hoping to maintain stability for their children.

Cultural Or Societal Expectations

Societal norms often place a strong emphasis on the sanctity of marriage, leading to pressure to stay together despite emotional disconnect. Many cultures view divorce as a failure, and individuals may feel guilt or shame for considering separation. This cultural conditioning can lead people to stay in marriages even when emotional or physical intimacy has diminished.

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Financial Reasons

Financial dependence is another significant factor. If one partner is financially reliant on the other, the fear of economic instability can make divorce seem impractical. Financial security is often associated with safety and stability, which can outweigh the emotional dissatisfaction in the relationship.

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