Kusha Kapila Broke Up. Can We Stop Obsessing Over It Already?

Unless you’ve got more important things to do, you’ve seen memes, conspiracy theories and widespread debate around it already. 

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Social media celebrity and actor Kusha Kapila has announced her separation from her husband Zorawar Ahluwalia, and, unless you’ve got more important things to do, you’d know the internet can’t stop obsessing over it.

“Was her husband insecure about her fame?”

“They just didn’t try hard enough…today’s generation…”

“Did one of them cheat?”

“Maya… is a dog?”

On Monday, in a statement on Instagram, both Kusha announced their separation; she wrote, “Zorawar and I have mutually decided to part ways. This hasn't been an easy decision by any measure but we know it's the right one at this point in our lives. The love and life we have shared together continue to mean everything to us, but sadly, what we seek currently for ourselves doesn't align. We gave it our all until we couldn't anymore."

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Kusha’s Character Assassination

The dominant conversation on Twitter and elsewhere – complete with memes and all – was speculative about how Kusha decided to leave her husband because she “became more successful than him”.

Some even go on to say that it's “good for the guy” because, well, “such a person will ruin your life”.

Others said, “After her success, she thought she’s too good for him.”

This Twitter user even questioned her feminism.

There were those armed with “facts”. Some of them questioned her decision to make content with him a few weeks ago if she was going to leave him.

Some others were confused about who Maya meant to Kusha and Zorawar, and after feeling sorry for their “child”, discovered that it was in fact a dog.

A few said that her husband didn’t love her, as was “apparently evident” in their videos together.

A ‘Mutual’ Break up, But One Clear Villain

The overwhelming trolling and hate against Kusha points a finger at how everyone’s dying to paint a picture where one person – and of course, this is usually the woman – is a villain.

Despite both their statements saying this was a mutual decision, Kusha was subjected to relentless trolling. Picturing her as a villain, who ruined an innocent guy’s life, seemed to be what everyone was enjoying as a conclusion.

The hate was so bad that even Zorawar took to Instagram to say that, “Divorce much like our marriage was a decision we both made together, after much deliberation and thought… What has transpired over the last 24 hours, with Kusha being subject to vile attacks online makes me sad and disappointed.”

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But many on the internet didn’t seem to like that explanation.

Well, this has precedents. Cricketer Virat Kohli didn’t score well? Blame it on his wife Anushka Sharma being present in the stands. Actress Tanushree Dutta alleges sexual harassment and comes out with her #MeToo story, and she’s labelled “attention-seeking.”

Zaira Wasim, a Kashmiri Muslim Bollywood actress decides to “disassociate” from Bollywood on grounds of her faith, and people start speculating how she’s likely to become a “stone-pelter” now, or calling her “regressive”.

Women in the public eye gain weight or lose weight, get any surgery done, adopt a child as a single mother, get pregnant without getting married, or choose younger lovers, and guess what follows? Never-ending opinions, hate, speculation and unsolicited advice.

Read: 5 Reels Of Kusha Kapila You Must Watch Because They Are Relatable AF

The Divorce Debate

Back to Kusha and Zorawar, whose separation triggered a larger debate on whether divorce is a good or a bad thing.

A Twitter user, while supporting divorce, commented, “Just leave before u cheat.. shouldn't extort money from the guy though as alimony.” But where did “cheating” and “extortion” come from, and why is the “guy” the victim by default here? The answer isn’t that hard to find if you look around.

Some said divorce can be “empowering if planned well”.

But the word “liability” – used for the women, obviously – was thrown around too. Several people on Twitter said the decision is “very wise”, adding that since she’s financially independent, she will now be less of a “liability for her ex-husband”.

Obviously, there was the usual trope of “seeking attention”.

The conspiracy theorists made a mandatory appearance too. They said they were not surprised at the divorce news, basing their theories on comments made by her in different contexts.

Then, of course, there are speculations about the real reason for their breakup, whether she was interested in someone else and more.

Are Celebrity Breakups Any of Our Business?

Celebrities, from actresses to influencers, sign up for a life in the public eye as a side-effect of fame.

However, if they sign up for the mounting amount of opinions and hate is questionable.

One argument of why people act this way harps on how we fall in love with their love, and look up to them as “relationship goals”.

While that’s there, does it really give us the right to just be vile because everyone gets an unbridled voice on social media? Maybe it’s plain old sadistic pleasure.

As this tweet sums up, if this is how most of us felt, the internet would have definitely been a kinder place for Kusha, especially since that’s her second home and workplace for years now.

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