Online Dating: 3 Women Get Candid About Their Uncomfortable Experiences

Dating can be a fun experience. It helps people explore, meet new people, have a good time, and even make new friends if nothing else. However, in the modern dating world, dating applications can prove to be tricky – with focus on hook ups, instances of catfishing, online and offline stalking, and even creepy behaviour which can go well beyond the screen.

The plague of creeps on dating applications knows no limits. Here are three women who experienced horrifying dates, which made them question the world of online dating altogether:

From Decent Online Conversations To Indecent Behaviour Offline

Chetna Arora had always enjoyed dating applications for their options to meet different people from all walks of life and as a means of socialisation. The 22-year-old would have never imagined that her date would go awry, even though she had heard numerous creepy stories about it from her girlfriends.

After talking for a few days on Bumble and having interesting conversations with her match, Arora decided to take the next step and planned to meet the guy she was talking to. She also brought along a friend to accompany her in case things went sideways.

However, the person had other intentions. He took her to another restaurant, leaving her friend behind. Arora agreed because he seemed decent to her and he had a friendly personality. But, sitting with him alone in another place made her realise how wrong she was about him.

She said that he started talking about sex and the different women he would sleep around with every other day. “The conversation was going in a completely different direction, but he managed to bring up his sexual prowess in it somehow,” she added.

That was not only it. As Arora placed her hand on the table, he tightly held onto her hand. His grip on her hand was the last straw or so she thought. “He asked me if I wanted to go to his place, and I finally understood his intentions,” she said.

Arora called her friend hurriedly and managed to make an excuse to get out of there. “I could not process what had happened. I was resisting his grip, but did not know what to do.”

She got on the rickshaw and rushed home. Blocking him from everywhere made her feel a little safe, but that date stayed with her as she questioned her decision-making skills. “I blamed myself for what happened. All my sensibilities had gone for a toss.”

The aftermath of the date also led her to uninstall all dating applications. “I felt so disgusted and uncomfortable that even having that dating application on my phone gave me the chills,” she said. “I have no idea why that guy was so different in-person. We had such a good time while texting that what happened does not make sense to me. It was like a bad dream.”

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‘I Pushed Him Away’: The Narrow Escape From A Creepy Date

Pranshu Mishra, 22, had been chatting with a guy for a few days before she met him at the mall. “We had a good time together. We walked around, ate good food, shopped a bit, and like a chivalrous man he even dropped me to my car,” she said.

“Despite insisting that he order his cab, he wanted to safely drop me to my car,” she said. They went towards the parking lot and her date came closer towards her. She felt a pang of nervousness. “I thought he was coming in for a hug, so I gave him a sideward hug. I did not want to send any other signal.”

Instead, he leaned forward for a kiss. Mishra with all her strength pushed him away, sat in her car, and locked the doors. “I don’t understand why a simple affectionate gesture is seen as a way towards kissing or sex. Why do men not get that dating is not only for hooking up?” she said.

After a couple of days, the man stalked her online and messaged Mishra from his friend’s account, in spite of the fact that she had blocked him and shown no interest. This made her feel uneasy, however she made a resolution to always make terms clear from the very beginning. “The online dating culture is a farce. Can we concentrate on creating good bonds and having meaningful connections, instead of just focusing on the sexual aspect?” she exclaimed.

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From Confessing His Liking To Being Ghosted

“The recent horrid dating experience I had took a toll on me. I have had different versions of it in the past, yet it felt traumatising,” said Jahnvi Singh, a college student.

She met a person on Tinder and had no expectations from him because of her past experiences. However, they planned a date which she had little excitement for. “The only thing that stood out was that he was travelling a long distance to meet me, so I felt special.”

She said that their first date went well as their vibes matched and he seemed sweet. “Straightaway my demisexual self did not mind having sex with him.” she added.

He flirted with her in a subtle way which made her feel comfortable and the whole time he seemed into her. “He booked the Oyo hotel for the next day and I agreed to have a second date with him. He also talked about the possibility of being in a relationship with me, and after a long time my heart felt good, as cheesy as it sounds,” she said.

Finally, the day had arrived. However, the hotel we were supposed to go to got raided, so he booked another one which was shady. “We still managed to have a good time. He acted too good to be true.”

“But, after having sex it seemed that he lost interest in me. He left by making up an excuse,” said Singh. After the utter humiliation, she tried to confront him, and he admitted that he liked her. However, the next day he ghosted her.

Singh felt so vulnerable at that moment. “It blows my mind how sex can be such a huge driving factor for men,” she said.

She believes ghosting is horrifying as it leaves one in an unclear space where you have no access to closure from the other person. “I hate how men choose the easy way out and are so self-absorbed. Why can’t they act like grownups? Just communicate and then leave.”

This experience made Singh feel less hopeful and she took a break from dating. However, personally she believes in the good of every person. “These circumstances push you away from the concept of online dating, but at the end of the day you choose to move on.” Somewhere at the back of her mind she wonders how many women have to face this.

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